“Life is much more important”: grief after suicide

A Preston woman whose mother took her own life last year is speaking out about to help others deal with bereavement.

Hannah Murray, 25, said she received little help at first, and that her experience was made worse by taboos that need to be addressed.

She tried getting support through ‘Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide’ but was put on a eight week waiting list for a call back.

Having never dealt with anything like this before, she felt that the long wait for help “was absolutely horrendous”.

Even when turning to the NHS for guidance, it became apparent that she would have to wait up to eight months. Her doctor advised her that they wouldn’t be able to help until she was over her first state of shock.

Due to this he said that she found herself going into “autopilot” and “couldn’t process anything for a few weeks”.

“I had all these emotions sat inside of me and didn’t know what to do”.

Hannah then decided to make an outlet for her grief through her Instagram page.

With daily posts that showed all aspects of grief from the good to the bad, it gives others who are in the same situation as her comfort knowing they aren’t alone.

Her page has grown to over 1000 followers, and she has had people reach out to her for advice on how to deal with grief.

Talking to others, brought to light that emotions less spoken of in grief, such as anger, were actually very common.

“I did not know you would get so much anger”.

With her completely honest accounts, she was approached by charity ‘Suicide&Co’ to be an ambassador.

The charity was established in August 2020, with the aim of raising money to provide counselling quicker for those effected by suicide grief.

Hannah writes blogs for the charity, detailing her journey and giving a real account of aspects of bereavement that are not usually talked bout.

With everything that has gone on, she feels her perspectives have changed and she has learned to “appreciate the little things” and focus on living over work as “life is much more important”.

In March she is going to be walking and running 100 miles for charity, to raise money for 12 counselling sessions for those who need them.

By sharing her experience and actively doing her part for organizations aiming to help this issue she has a very clear aim:

“If I can improve the service for one person, so they don’t have to go through what I went through, then that to me is an accomplishment”.

If you need to contact anybody about suicide grief don’t hesitate to give these charities a call:

Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide – 0300 111 5065

Cruse Helpline – 0808 808 1677